Jennifer Aniston’s words are extremely powerful and align directly with what I am doing with my blog and my business. I am so excited and happy she publicly put her thoughts out there because there are so many women out there thinking the same things and feeling the same way. To have someone in such a public light, someone who is highly respected and successful, call journalists, the tabloids, the media, and society, out on their shit is amazing. I can feel her passion and frustration through her words and her writing and this makes for a powerful message.
” The objectification and scrutiny we put women through is absurd and disturbing. The way I am portrayed by the media is simply a reflection of how we see and portray women in general, measured against some warped standard of beauty. Sometimes cultural standards just need a different perspective so we can see them for what they really are — a collective acceptance… a subconscious agreement. We are in charge of our agreement. Little girls everywhere are absorbing our agreement, passive or otherwise. And it begins early. The message that girls are not pretty unless they’re incredibly thin, that they’re not worthy of our attention unless they look like a supermodel or an actress on the cover of a magazine is something we’re all willingly buying into. This conditioning is something girls then carry into womanhood. “
Like Aniston says, we usually don’t consciously realize the subliminal messages we are bombarded with and accept as truth every single day. These messages begin in childhood and continue for the rest of our lives. They come from the media and society and are embedded into the brains of the young and turn into beliefs that affect our thoughts, our actions, our mindset, and our happiness. But an important and awesome piece Aniston mentions is that concerning choice. We have a choice to not agree with what society and the media want us to think. We can choose to challenge the status quo and change our thoughts and beliefs. This change and this choice starts with awareness and awareness starts with a voice, a blog, an article written by a celebrity. This way of thinking and seeing doesn’t just apply to body image, it can be applied to any aspect of society (going to a 9-5 job for example).
I could literally quote Aniston’s entire article because I love every piece of it so much but what would be the point of that because you guys could go read it yourselves (and I encourage you to do so). But I am going to keep quoting her because her words are on freaking point. She continues on with her article saying,
“We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone. Let’s make that decision for ourselves and for the young women in this world who look to us as examples. Let’s make that decision consciously, outside of the tabloid noise. We don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete. We get to determine our own “happily ever after” for ourselves.”
Hell yeah Jen! You go girl! That makes me really excited.
Magazines and tabloids are obsessed with weight loss, diets, and body types. Common topics are: “Omg did you see all of the weight Kim lost/gained?! I wonder how she did it.” “Celebrity X looses comedy position as people will think he/she is less funny if they loose weight.” Excuse me, what?? That doesn’t even make sense. I know it doesn’t just have to do with women as well. I know men are also subject to this body obsession and focus but women definitely receive the negative body attention more.
Why don’t they discuss the amazing things women are doing like starting non profits, writing books, heading organizations and businesses? Why don’t they focus on what women are doing rather than what they are eating or what they look like? Because those things don’t sell. Those things are not entertaining and they cause the reader to have to think a little bit deeper rather than numb out and not really pay attention. I’m going to go as far as saying the tabloid reader doesn’t really want to hear good news or the important, amazing things other women are doing because it may make them feel worse about themselves. I know I’ve personally suffered from comparitis and in the past it’s always made me feel more comfortable and secure when I’ve heard of people struggling or failing. Misery loves company right? Not my proudest of moments but I’m being real and honest on here so there’s that.
“From years of experience, I’ve learned tabloid practices, however dangerous, will not change, at least not any time soon. What can change is our awareness and reaction to the toxic messages buried within these seemingly harmless stories served up as truth and shaping our ideas of who we are. We get to decide how much we buy into what’s being served up, and maybe some day the tabloids will be forced to see the world through a different, more humanized lens because consumers have just stopped buying the bullshit.”
Aniston has just scraped the surface of what is wrong with the way our society views the body and the beliefs we are bombarded with and adapt as our own without even realizing it. Luckily, our beliefs can change with time, practice, energy, effort, focus, and repetition. This is something I am realizing and working on every single day.
I sincerely hope Aniston’s article helps change the way society views women and their bodies and causes a stir. We can all help by spreading the word and the movement by sharing this article as well as our support for this way of thinking and these beliefs.