Today is the First Day of the Rest of your Life 🌟

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Yeah yeah my title is cliché but I don’t care because it’s true and always will be true.

Today is a reset button on your life.

Monday is a reset button on your week. The 1st of the month is a reset button on your month. The 1st of the year is a reset button on your year. How freakin’ cool is that?! Very very cool because trust me, I need A LOT of reset buttons. A reset button for my nutrition, my mindset, my momentum, my emotions, my spirit, my soul, my relationships, my workouts, can I have a reset button for everything??

Knowing that tomorrow is a new day, a reset, the first day of the rest of your life, isn’t an excuse to do stupid shit with this day, this gift, you have here right in front of you, but it helps you let things go.
Live in the moment but don’t get caught up in it and overwhelmed by it.

Because the moment is fleeting and doesn’t last very long.

When things go wrong, let them go. When things don’t go according to plan, let them go. When someone or something disappoints you, let it go. When an unpleasant emotion or thought comes over you, let it go (this is a HUGE one for me). It’s not worth it. Why ruin the rest of your day, or the next day, or week, or month, or year, focusing on something negative?

Okay yeah easier said than done (especially for someone like me who suffers from anxiety, ADD, perfectionism, constantly planning, overthinking, feeling, etc.) but practicing letting it go helps in a major way. And do you know how else you can practice letting it go?

By remembering that today is the first day of the rest of your life.

You can do whatever you want with this day. You can feel however you want in this day. IT’S YOUR CHOICE. Yup. I’m putting the responsibility on YOU. Yes, you do have responsibilities and obligations that need to get taken care of but you still have a choice.

Your attitude is a choice.

It’s takes hard work, consistency, dedication, and motivation to think this way. It’s not easy. You are literally rewiring your brain to believe these statements but it’s so worth it. Imagine the type of life you could live if you woke up every morning and said to yourself, “today is the first day of the rest of my life.” Empowering right? It feels good just to type it out.

I don’t practice what I preach perfectly (like I said, this is hard work and I’m still getting the hang of it), but this morning I did wake up and say to myself (and my followers on Snacpchat), “today is the first day of the rest of my life.”

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And it felt good. I felt free. Free from whatever happened yesterday. Free from the fear of quitting my safe, steady, secure, comfortable, “prestigious” job. Free from having to explain myself. Free from the negativity in my own head.

Today is really really the first day of the rest of my life. Today is an extra special and huge day for me. Today is my first day of complete freedom. Today is my first day after quitting my job. Was I freaking out this week? Absolutely yes. Was I afraid of the uncertainty that lays ahead? You bet. I am not the type of person to relax, have no schedule, to just chill and do nothing. I actually planned out the first day of the rest of my life because I was afraid of being bored, unproductive, and of wasting this precious day. There is so much I want to do with this time. It is precious to me. But this also leads me to putting a lot of pressure on myself to complete 100 tasks in a day, make this super long to do list, stress out about it, get overwhelmed, and then do none of it. This is a pattern and a habit I get myself in to all of the time. But with the help of some coaches, mentors, and organizational tools, I’m getting much better at not scheduling as much in to my day. Instead I’m scheduling in breaks of fun and play and relaxation and time without a phone.

Today is the first day of the rest of my life.

I practiced my spirit ritual, I worked out, I got my eyebrows done, I chatted with a mentor on the phone, I revamped my schedule and created a totally unique and epic one. I created creative content. Things didn’t go exactly as planned but I adapted and was flexible. I made it work. In my favor actually.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Can you make it an amazing one?

Can you practice saying this to yourself every morning? I’m going to practice right there with you. Let me know what you think and how it goes by using the form below.


The Four Agreements Tom Brady made that helped him get through Deflategate


Why is there still a taboo around self-help books? Do you think they are only for those who are “depressed” and “need extra help”? Do you walk straight past that section of the bookstore, making sure not to stop or look too long in case someone thinks something is wrong with you? I’m sure this isn’t you because if it was, you probably wouldn’t be reading my blog. But it was me a few months ago.

If Tom Brady is reading self-help books, than so can you

He discussed the book that changed it all for him in an article written almost a year ago on So yes, I’m late to the game, but I believe it is extremely timely due to his recent decision in the Deflategate case. There’s no doubt this book didn’t have an affect on him and his decision to take the four game suspension rather than continuing with his case and escalating it to the Supreme Court.

Spill it Nance, what’s the book you’re talking about?

Yes, I am talking in third person. Why? Because it’s fun and I feel like it 🙂 If you already clicked on the links I provided above than you know what book I’m talking about. It’s called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and I actually read it before I even knew Tom Brady read it because it was recommended to me by my friend Chelsea Miller (I’m so hipster 😉 ). I just recently found out my boy Brady read this book and it got me really excited, so much so that I had to write about it. The Four Agreements is a pretty freakin’ epic book and I totally understand why Brady has been reading it for the past 10 years and why he rereads it before every football season. It’s just as amazing that Gisele has also referred to The Four Agreements in multiple interviews and that it has influenced her thoughts and her life in an equally profound way.  Power couple much? Couples who read self-help books together, stay together and conquer the world.

So what are The Four Agreements and why is it so epic?

Well where do I even start? This actually works out super well because The Four Agreements is the first book I ever listened to as an audiobook. I’m definitely old school, I like holding my books and having paper copies of them (to write in, dog ear, and highlight) but my friend and I are doing a book club and he lets me use his Audible account so he bought it on there and we both listened to it. Listening to the book allowed me to take notes on an amazing app called Evernote that I adore. These notes are perfect because I can use them to share some big points I typed out while I was listening. This book is definitely spiritual, very deep, and sometimes hard to understand because what Don Miguel Ruiz is discussing is so abstract and not the way most people are used to thinking. But it is certainly worth the read (and re read) in order to help you change your thinking, the agreements you make, and your life.

Don Miguel Ruiz starts off with some important general points:

  • We never had the opportunity to choose what to believe or what not to believe. We were given our beliefs from childhood and we have held on to these beliefs ever since. In order to create new beliefs we need to agree with new ideas. This is extremely difficult to do because it causes us to feel unsafe. –> To realize that I was given my beliefs and that they aren’t true was HUGE for me. I can CHOOSE to believe anything I want. And so can you. Boom.
  • As a child, our reward was attention from other people. As a child, we try to please our parents and our teachers. The fear of being rejected becomes the fear of not being good enough. Eventually we become a copy of other people’s beliefs.–>A part of me is (and has always been) a people pleaser so this hit home for me. I always wanted to be the “perfect” child. I always wanted to do everything right, get the good grades, the amazing job, I wanted to make everyone else proud and I wanted to make them happy. I need to be validated, I need attention. This then creates a fear of being rejected because I so crave acceptance and love and I am always striving for more so I don’t feel good enough right now.
  •  Being ourselves is our biggest fear because we fear we will be rejected and that we won’t be good enough.
  • No one abuses me more than I abuse myself. This stems from believing I need to be perfect, hiding that imperfection, feeling inauthentic, rejecting myself and punishing myself. Self abuse comes from self rejection. Self rejection comes from an image of perfection.
  • The most important agreements are the ones with myself. Break the agreements that are fear-based. The agreements based in love are #1 and the absolute truth. The only way to break an agreement is to make a new agreement based on truth (aka love).

Okay and now finally the actual Four Agreements:

  1. Be impeccable with my word. 
    • This was a hard one for me to get. On the surface it looks like, “okay be truthful, keep my word, don’t lie, got it. Nothing new. Easy enough.” But then Don Miguel goes on to say, “How much I love myself and how I feel about myself is directly proportional to the quality and integrity and impeccability of my word.” Whaaat wow. Damn that shit’s deep. Read that a few times and really let it sink in. So basically the more you love yourself, the more impeccable your word is. Makes sense since the truth is love and if you are to be speaking the truth, you need to be speaking love and that all starts with loving yourself.
  2. Don’t take anything personally.
    • This is one that Tom Brady specifically talks about in his interview and one that really helped him through the Deflategate case. He didn’t allow himself to take what was being said about him or what was happening as something personal. This of course is extremely difficult and takes strength and practice but it’s a habit that can be built over time. Everything people do and say is because of themselves and their opinions, beliefs and feelings in their own minds. If I take things personally then I poison my mind.By taking things personally I set myself up to suffer for nothing. This agreement is something I have really been practicing and it was been helping me so so much. As a sensitive, emotional, and caring person, it is extra hard for me to not take things personally but by reminding myself of Ruiz’s words that what people say has only to do with themselves I’ve been getting much better at this practice. One of my favorite sayings also helps as an amazing reminder, “What you think of me is none of my business.”
  3. Don’t make assumptions.
    • Ask questions rather than make assumptions. We make assumptions because we are too afraid to ask for clarification. This is another reason why communication is key. When we communicate, we are clearing up the situation and dissolving assumptions. Assumptions set us up for suffering. And of course they make an ass out of you and me 😉 (hehe sorry I had to). We make the assumption that people see us the way we see ourselves. Before other people can judge or reject us, we judge and reject ourselves.
  4. Always do my best.
    • It doesn’t matter if I’m sick or tired, just do my best in that moment. Don’t overextend myself. My best will change depending on the time of day, my health and my feelings and that is OK. When I always do my best, I take action. Take action because I love it, not because I expect a reward. This was another light bulb moment for me. Action dissolves fear and anxiety. When you take action you cannot fail, only learn and grow. When I do my best, I learn to accept myself.

Whoa. That’s a lot of heavy, deep shit right?

Uh yeah. That’s why Tom Brady and Gisele are freakin’ badasses.And that’s also why they have read The Four Agreements multiple times. It’s hard to digest and understand at first because what Don Miguel Ruiz is shining a light upon are things we don’t ever think about or can fully digest the first time around.

You have to be very strong to follow these agreements. Warning: most people do not think this way or hold these agreements in their mind so you are the minority. Get used to it.

The first step to following the agreements is being aware of them so that’s checked off your list- woohoo! Next you have to allow yourself to be imperfect, you won’t follow all of these agreements all of the time, and that is normal, expected and a good thing because it means you’re not some crazy robot. You have to be committed, dedicated and hardworking. Write these agreements out in places where you will see them often to remind yourself of them (I like using index cards and taping them on my wall, hanging them next to my desk at work, putting them in my backpack).  Start noticing your old thoughts and little by little start replacing your old agreements and beliefs with new ones that align with the above four agreements.

There are so many more notes I have typed out and so much more I could go in to but I will leave you guys with this because I want you to read the book for yourself 🙂 If this post has motivated and intrigued you to purchase the book please consider supporting me by ordering the book here (or clicking on any of the links above).

I would be honored to hear your thoughts and opinions on the book and how it has helped shape your life after reading it so please contact me using the form below because I would love to chat about it <3







For the record, Jennifer Aniston is a Goddess

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Jennifer Aniston’s words are extremely powerful and align directly with what I am doing with my blog and my business. I am so excited and happy she publicly put her thoughts out there because there are so many women out there thinking the same things and feeling the same way. To have someone in such a public light, someone who is highly respected and successful, call journalists, the tabloids, the media, and society, out on their shit is amazing. I can feel her passion and frustration through her words and her writing and this makes for a powerful message.
” The objectification and scrutiny we put women through is absurd and disturbing. The way I am portrayed by the media is simply a reflection of how we see and portray women in general, measured against some warped standard of beauty. Sometimes cultural standards just need a different perspective so we can see them for what they really are — a collective acceptance… a subconscious agreement. We are in charge of our agreement. Little girls everywhere are absorbing our agreement, passive or otherwise. And it begins early. The message that girls are not pretty unless they’re incredibly thin, that they’re not worthy of our attention unless they look like a supermodel or an actress on the cover of a magazine is something we’re all willingly buying into. This conditioning is something girls then carry into womanhood. “
Like Aniston says, we usually don’t consciously realize the subliminal messages we are bombarded with and accept as truth every single day. These messages begin in childhood and continue for the rest of our lives. They come from the media and society and are embedded into the brains of the young and turn into beliefs that affect our thoughts, our actions, our mindset, and our happiness. But an important and awesome piece Aniston mentions is that concerning choice. We have a choice to not agree with what society and the media want us to think. We can choose to challenge the status quo and change our thoughts and beliefs. This change and this choice starts with awareness and awareness starts with a voice, a blog, an article written by a celebrity. This way of thinking and seeing doesn’t just apply to body image, it can be applied to any aspect of society (going to a 9-5 job for example).
I could literally quote Aniston’s entire article because I love every piece of it so much but what would be the point of that because you guys could go read it yourselves (and I encourage you to do so). But I am going to keep quoting her because her words are on freaking point. She continues on with her article saying,
We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone. Let’s make that decision for ourselves and for the young women in this world who look to us as examples. Let’s make that decision consciously, outside of the tabloid noise. We don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete. We get to determine our own “happily ever after” for ourselves.”
 Hell yeah Jen! You go girl! That makes me really excited.
Magazines and tabloids are obsessed with weight loss, diets, and body types. Common topics are: “Omg did you see all of the weight Kim lost/gained?! I wonder how she did it.” “Celebrity X looses comedy position as people will think he/she is less funny if they loose weight.” Excuse me, what?? That doesn’t even make sense. I know it doesn’t just have to do with women as well. I know men are also subject to this body obsession and focus but women definitely receive the negative body attention more.
Why don’t they discuss the amazing things women are doing like starting non profits, writing books, heading organizations and businesses? Why don’t they focus on what women are doing rather than what they are eating or what they look like? Because those things don’t sell. Those things are not entertaining and they cause the reader to have to think a little bit deeper rather than numb out and not really pay attention. I’m going to go as far as saying the tabloid reader doesn’t really want to hear good news or the important, amazing things other women are doing because it may make them feel worse about themselves. I know I’ve personally suffered from comparitis and in the past it’s always made me feel more comfortable and secure when I’ve heard of people struggling or failing. Misery loves company right? Not my proudest of moments but I’m being real and honest on here so there’s that.
“From years of experience, I’ve learned tabloid practices, however dangerous, will not change, at least not any time soon. What can change is our awareness and reaction to the toxic messages buried within these seemingly harmless stories served up as truth and shaping our ideas of who we are. We get to decide how much we buy into what’s being served up, and maybe some day the tabloids will be forced to see the world through a different, more humanized lens because consumers have just stopped buying the bullshit.”
Aniston has just scraped the surface of what is wrong with the way our society views the body and the beliefs we are bombarded with and adapt as our own without even realizing it. Luckily, our beliefs can change with time, practice, energy, effort, focus, and repetition. This is something I am realizing and working on every single day.
I sincerely hope Aniston’s article helps change the way society views women and their bodies and causes a stir. We can all help by spreading the word and the movement by sharing this article as well as our support for this way of thinking and these beliefs.